In The Moment

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Today I challenge you to be in the moment, for that is all you really have. Allow yourself permission to stop focusing so hard on the timelines and deadlines and be fully present to what is. 

The journey is the goal with loving the process. And not needing to look for finish line... that only means “the end”. 

Evolving and expanding your life into what you desire is the joy in living. Making it happen from your own dreams and wishes. Let the Universe conspire with you and open up the endless possibilities that are available FOR you. 

How can you start in this moment to really be present? 

Maybe just a gentle pinch of the cheek saying “that’a girl/boy—you are a gift to this world and we are glad you came. Now go be brilliant, my friend.“

Ask me for help if you feel the urge. It doesn’t mean you failed. It just means you’re not alone.

#lifebydesign #youmakeithappen #unstoppable #motivation

Lost Your Drive?

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Everyone has a story and those experiences are what define them. But what happens when you find yourself derailed, going in a downward spiral, feeling no love for yourself, using food, alcohol, shopping (anything) to numb out and go unconscious to those feelings?

You, my dear, have lost your DRIVE, and not long ago I felt exactly the same way thanks to the stress and responsibilities in my own life. Luckily, I was able to switch out of that negative pattern and I want you to know that you TRULY can do the same - you just have to say YES and take action.

If you're at the point where you're feeling like you want something more, you're ready for change, and you know it's time to create a NEW story, I invite you to register for my Activation hour so you can get back on track in life and have the joy and happiness you desire.

Click below to register for instant access!
http://www.findyourowndrive.com/activation

Thinking About Thoughts

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With a new day, comes new strength and new thoughts!

Never underestimate the power of the mind. It is a choice what you choose to think in every minute and every moment.

Today I challenge you to really be conscious of what you’re thinking. See how your thoughts tend to drift and wonder. What are they thinking about?

Are they thoughts of joy and happiness? Or are they thoughts that are surrounded by fear and uncertainty?

Are you struggling to find answers to things that you want to resolve but just can’t seem to find the answers?

Do you stay up at night trying to fall asleep only to keep running the story over and over in your head, and having nightmares on top of it?

If this sounds like you, isn’t it time to stop and really learn to focus on what brings you joy and happiness?

I want to support you! I was you! And I know how to make the change quickly so that you no longer have to struggle. 

Here’s where you can unlock the doors to where those thoughts come from and get crystal clear on how to release the past and begin moving forward with your dreams and desires with confidence, joy and happiness. 

You are worth it! Give yourself permission to break the chains that hold you down. The time is now. 

👉🏻 findyourowndrive.com/activation

Is Your Past Running the Show?

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Often, the stories of your past are running the show. Meaning, you continue to think and speak about them all the time within your mind or to others. 

How does this serve? It doesn’t really. It just keep you stuck in that story and doesn’t allow for you to uplevel to something better. 

“you can’t rewrite your past...”. 

Your past is the place where you learn valuable lessons from the experiences you have and understand those lessons by using the information to do better moving forward. 

Good or bad — your past is behind you. 

Today, in this moment, you have the power—if you give yourself permission, “to grab a clean sheet of paper and write your future” with all the details of what you want to experience next. 

Allow your mind let go the limitations (fear) and really own what you desire. 

The sky is the limit!

It’s your birth-rite to live abundantly and prosperously so today move towards those dreams and goals by writing it as if it already is....and so it will be. 💫

Remember — you make it happen and the time is now.

Let It Go

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You know the song “Let it Go”? 

There is a powerful statement in the song that says:

“It's funny how some distance makes everything seem small
And the fears that once controlled me can't get to me at all
It's time to see what I can do
To test the limits and break through
No right, no wrong, no rules for me
I'm free”

How many times have you found yourself just thinking over and over about a situation or circumstance that doesn’t feel good. One that you can’t change —it’s happened and it’s over. 

Yet it keeps popping up in your mind and you replay it wondering why it happened the way it did or how you could have done things differently. 

A bad day — is just that AND you have a choice in how to manage such a day. 

As the song says “No right, no wrong, no rules for me—I'm free”

This is the most powerful statement I can think of that really opens the heart and allows for the mind (fear) to release the “bad day” and move into the freedom of choosing to see the good and learn the lesson. 

Back when I attend the Zig Ziglar conference there was a workshop that taught about being a “good finder” and there was even a notepad that we could fill in and share with others identifying something good about them. 

It taught me to be a good finder in all situations. 

From that time, I began to use this method. When I think of anything “bad” I’ve learned to continue being the good finder. Knowing that although the day isn’t as I would have desired, I am alive and well. Or I’m still breathing and that means I still hold the power in letting the situation control me or for me to control my thoughts and feelings around the situation. 

So what is your bad day coping mechanism? Do you carry it like a back pack and feel the weight and relive the moment?

Are you willing to take off the back pack and “let it go?”

Seems impossible —Want to know how? 

Take paper and pen and write out everything about the bad day, circumstance or situation. Get really detailed. Add the sounds, smells, feelings, and such to really paint a clear picture. If someone read it they would feel as though they were there. 

Get it all out on the paper. Don’t hold anything back. 

Once you feel complete, read it—out loud 3 times. 

And then take the paper and burn it 🔥

Yes! Burn it—and just before doing so say to the Universe I am releasing this to be recycled across all space and time. It no longer serves me and I am willing to let it go. 

Watch it burn and believe in the process and trusting it is so. 

Sounds silly — but it works! Give it a try. 

Sending you love and light. 

Have an magical day my friend. 

Pleasing Others and Not Yourself?

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Allowing yourself to release the power of others and their need to “help” you can often be the turning point in your life. The emotions that are attached to fulfilling what others “want” you to be, do or have can only leave you feeling stress, anxiety, and depression.

FLIP THE SWITCH NOW!!

Go within and learn to use your heart and gut to fulfill your needs and desires. What do you really want? What brings you joy — you’ll feel it in your body. Our body is powerful in letting you know what’s right. And the mind is supportive too but can easily be confused with all the input from others who had an opinion.

You’ve got this. You can live your life by design! Not sure how to do that? Fear is keeping you stuck? Let’s hop on a call and get you unstuck. It’s time for you to play full out and be unstoppable.

Where Do You See Yourself?

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Where do you see yourself? 
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Stepping forward into growth or back into safety? 
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You hear the expression stepping out of your comfort zone—And often times we are willing to do so, but we things start getting difficult we find ourselves right back into the comfort zone area.
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They also talk about thinking outside the box. But when we get outside of the box sometimes we find ourselves lost and confused and so we jump right back into the box.
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Being able to step forward should be the focus. 
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I only say this because had I not made choices to move forward I would be so lost and not be the person that I have become today.
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As I set my intentions, and begin to get very clear about them, and do my mindset work, and envision the results, I am stepping forward.
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It doesn’t have to be anything huge for you to move forward, it’s just really taking those baby steps one at a time.
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So what are you waiting for? Do you need some support? Do you need maybe a kick in the pants or a big shovel from the back. 
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Thank the leap — of faith— and grow your wings on the way down. 
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Maybe you don’t even know what it is that you want to step forward and do. Perhaps you can journal about this and see if you were to take one step forward toward your goal, your intention, your desire, what would that look like?
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It really is about having your mind clear, being in the moment, and making that conscious decision that stepping back is not an option. And when you burn the boat as they say you have no other choice but to take over the island 🌴 
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The choice is yours. Stay stuck — or step forward into unstoppable. 👊🏻
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What's Your Order?

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Tell the “story” as if it already is! 

Whatever it is that you’re calling in for your life —what does it look like once you have received it. 

A lot of lottery winners lose their money quickly because they don’t have a plan for spending it. 

Make a Plan today on what things will look like and how you will look, be, and feel once it arrives. 

There’s truly magic in all of this I promise you. So just take today and start creating that future with pen and paper and let the universe do the rest. 

Imagine the Universe is a cosmic kitchen and you are placing your order. Give the details and know it is on its way to you for you. And remember to be in a high vibration when you create this order by being excited and energized — Childlike when they know Christmas is coming. 

You’ve got this. You make it happen. Start with the vision. And celebrate everything you call in with happiness and joy. Cheers my friend. Have an amazing day 💫🥂

Setting a Goal

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Setting a goal. “People would go succeed because they know where they are going” —Earl Nightingale.

Take a look at your goals and identify three or four of them that you would like to accomplish in any area of your life and give yourself a time frame.

Work every day to make sure that you’re doing at least one or two, maybe even three, action steps daily towards achieving those goals.

Remember to stop and catch yourself thinking. Are you having positive thoughts or negative thoughts?

Your thoughts are creating your future! The more clarity you can provide around obtaining the goal the more your subconscious mind will start to believe and things will begin falling into place.

Let the magic begin. This is also known as manifesting. Contact me if you’d like help with setting a goal, staying focused on it, and manifesting success in your life.

Changes - Inside and Around

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#WellnessWednesday Today I want to remind you that when things change inside of you, things change around you. 

During my journey back in 2014, I took my understanding of my health and wellness to the next level. First releasing my addiction to alcohol, followed dropping sugar, white flour and dairy from my diet, to learning to love on myself more. 

No judgement, self loathing, or negative self talk —that didn’t serve me so I was done! 

I started from a place of mindset in that I would make myself healthier for longevity and vitality. To live in a body vessel that would carry me into my hundreds if possible 💫

And I was able to accomplish that goal, for a period of time, I felt alive in my body. And what was going into my body and mind was goodness with nutrition, thoughts, and love. And everything around me was all that as well. 

Overtime, like many of us do, I slipped back into my old patterns with food, but proudly to say some of my other addictions to alcohol, smoking, overspending, is no longer a struggle for me. 👏🏻

What I know for sure is it all begins with the thoughts. Our mind is a powerful tool. What I’m thinking about, and what I’m saying about myself is all deeply imbedded with in my system. And the outer evidence of clutter, lack of focus and energy, and eating those foods that no longer support me is the confirmation things need to change.  

So it’s time to step back into my inner compass and find ways that I can start creating better wellness. 

My intuition knows and tells me — back to the basics and start with mindset. 

Thoughts become things as Mike Dooley always says so choose the good ones.

And so today I WILL! 

In what ways do you find yourself struggling? If you need help navigating these changes, please contact me.

70,000 Chances

I heard the other day that we have 60-70,000 thoughts a day. And of those thoughts 90% of them are the same thoughts we had the day before. And those thoughts are about things of the past or things in the future. 

So what would happen if you brought your thoughts into the present? Allowing the thoughts that trouble you to be released, and get really present in this moment? You have 70,000 chances a day to do just that.

Perhaps one way to get there is to journal all of your thoughts onto a piece of paper. Allowing everything that comes up to be placed on that paper. Once complete feel how your body and mind are free of tension and stress. 

Following you can choose to keep the paper and that’s fine but if you feel the urge to burn it or throw it away then do that. 

In the work that I do I have found that utilizing the time to really do what I call a brain dump (either on paper or during our sessions) to release those thoughts that keep you stuck in the past/future and you are missing out on the present moment. Journaling is so beneficial. 

If you like additional help let me know. 

Happy Friday! 🖊 📔 

High Performance Habits

Ever heard the phrase "The cobbler’s children have no shoes”? It's a rough translation of a Spanish proverb, and the idea is that someone with a specific skill is often too busy assisting others that their own affairs, especially related to their trade, go unattended.

Well, this Cobbler's kids are BAREFOOT.

Today, I came to the realization that - while I've been telling clients to journal and talking about the importance of journaling here on my blog and social - my own journaling practice has taken a back seat for some time now. I know it’s such a powerful tool to keep me focused and aligned with my higher self where I can receive the messages that will offer me guidance, support, and love.

Clearly, this isn’t something I’m proud of, but I want to openly and honestly share this with you because we all need a little reminder of what we need to be doing and new motivation to do it. I recently ordered Brendon Burchard's book "High Performance Habits," and it's REALLY been helpful in re-energizing me to consistently journal again.

I’m attaching a picture below with a few journal prompts from the book that might help you as well. Enjoy!

And, as always, please feel free to contact me if you want to work with me as a one-on-one accountability coach, speaker, or workshop leader. One of the things I journal about - and call in more of, any chance I can get - is to have as many of these opportunities as possible. I would be honored to add you to the fold of my many happy, motivated, inspired, unstuck and unstoppable clients.

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Believe

From this mornings reading — hope it resonates with you as it does for me. 👇🏻

“Please, my friends, believe in your heart and your voice and your mission no matter what, no matter how small it all feels now. 

The journey to legend begins the moment our bias for ease and comfort is overpowered by our drive for challenge and contribution.

Don't forget that growth and greatness often come from those seemingly endless, fruitless days and nights of faith and discipline. 

Keep working, keep at it, believe.”

- Brendon Burchard

Do you Struggle to Have all that you Desire?

Do you struggle to have all that you desire?
I know a way to flip a switch within you that will help you to be, do and have all that your heart desires. It is a technique I call Activation for Transformation. It is a 60-minute face to face call via Zoom where we will:

>> rekindle your relationship with yourself.
>> help you gain more clarity and understanding about the power of your thoughts.
>> open up all areas that you have felt blocked and uncertain about.

You will leave our call with a renewed excitement about your direction and clarity on how to get there.

Schedule your 60-minute session right HERE: www.findyourowndrive.com/activation

How's 2019 Going for You?

Are You Ready? 
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We are 3 months into the year. Are you crushing your goals, designing your life, and creating magic?  
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If that’s a hard “not so much” then let me recommend you do an ACTIVATION —shift out of the less and enter the time of MORE...more joy, love, happiness! Crushing goals, living life abundantly, and igniting the magic of the Universe.  
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Here’s the link 👉🏻 http://www.findyourowndrive.com/activation

Routine Measures

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I’ve set the intention to get back to doing the things I know to do to keep me balanced, focused, energized, excited and productive. It all beings with a solid ROUTINE— much like a foundation for any structure — that allows for one to begin creating a life by designing. 

Yes, of course I have the daily routines of combing my hair, brushing my teeth, showering, etc. But there’s more to routines then just what we do on a daily basis for hygene. It’s things that we bring into our lives that allows us to grow and expand.

Today I begin with adding reading back into my daily routine. Whether it’s a story, poem, or quotes I am inspired do taking 5 minutes at the start of my day I’m opening the books for that daily spark of inspiration that my head and heart desire. and this paragraph jumped off the page ✨💓✨

What’s part of your routine?

It's Happening

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Living life by design. It’s what I tell my clients every day to do. It’s what I coach my social media followers to do when I check in several times a week. But a few months ago, I realized I wasn’t truly living the life I desired for myself. There were some things I was holding on to because I was scared to let go. There were things I wanted to do, but I was scared to take the leap of faith.

How could I genuinely, whole-heartedly encourage my clients to live life by design if I wasn’t? So, I decided to take my own advice. I went through my five steps of D.R.I.V.E. (you’ll have to download my free eBook to learn what those are!). I got clear on what I wanted and starting taking steps necessary to make it happen. I made huge shifts in my personal and professional life to better align with the big hopes and dreams I have for myself. Less of what I don’t enjoy, more of what brings me joy.

And now… it’s happening. The things I journaled about, visualized to the greatest detail that I could muster, and spoke about to as many people who would listen… it’s all happening. For me. Right now.

Just as an example, one of the things I wanted to do more of was to do more public speaking. I visualized myself helping and inspiring groups, teams, and organizations. I told people I was interested in doing this. I journaled about it. And then, the calls started flowing in. Some opportunities were even bigger than I had hoped for!

Yesterday was one of them — I was asked to be a featured speaker at the Ohio Success Awards in Columbus at the Ohio Statehouse. Business owners, entrepreneurs, leaders, movers and shakers from across the state came to the event and filled a room that I spent an hour motivating and educating about my five steps of D.R.I.V.E.

It was the very thing I wanted and envisioned for myself.

Now, I share this to show you it’s possible. The magic is real. The visualizing, the journaling, the speaking it as if it’s real already… it’s real and it works. I know because it’s happening for me right now and I want this for you too.

Contact me if you need help getting clear on your vision or an accountability partner along the way.

Who Do You Admire?

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This week, I talked a lot about being intentional as you release — not just suppress — what no longer serves you and the person you desire to be. My #MondayMotivation post was about the being more intentional part, my #TuneUpThursday post was about releasing vs suppressing, and then my #FridayJournal post was about believing you’re capable of doing the very things you admire others for doing.
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So, I encourage you to pull out your journal and pen and write (or just a note in your phone). Spend a few minutes thinking about who you desire to be! What are the specific qualities you admire in others?

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You admire others who are pushing themselves to be better. This is the first step to becoming one of them.
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Thoughts becomes things 💫 choose the good ones 💜🧡💜

As always, if you ever need help navigating your journey, please feel free to contact me.

Here We Grow!

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📸February 2015 (left) — this is me at my photoshoot (hair and makeup artist behind me) for Find You Own DRIVE, the business I started to mentor and support others both on and off the golf course ⛳️

The desire to Coach was from a place of me learning from my own life experiences, including the good, bad, and sometimes ugly experiences which I learned to embrace and/or overcome. Having worked with a coach myself I saw the value and wanted to help others through their journey being supported with a coach. Everyone needs a coach — athletes have proven that! 

Little did I know at that time (or maybe I did since I like living big) the business in transformational coaching and public speaking would expand exponentially in just four years. 

The me who believed in herself and took the leap and found her DRIVE is now supporting others from stuck to unstoppable in their life and/or business.

📸October 2018 (photo right), has brought many new avenues to share and shine my gifts and offers to a much larger audience which includes my upcoming events in March at Columbus Women in Business Expo in Pickerington and at the State House for the Cincy Magazines Ohio Business Success Awards where I will be presenting to the attendees at both events. 

Why am I sharing this?

I share this because the little country girl who started selling stationery at the age of 10, going up and down the road to the farm wives, asking them to buy stationery, which then allowed me to get mine for free, set all of this in motion.

Not only am I an entrepreneur at heart but also a teacher. When I turned 30 and went back to school to earn my teaching degree and also earned my masters in technology education, it ignited the light within me to play a bigger game in life. 

And in my 40s owning and operating two golf courses with my family just added to my experiences.

And look at me now, I am independently growing and supporting others in their businesses as well as speaking and motivating teams and individuals —not only to find their own drive from stuck to unstoppable but also how to live their life by design.

If you or someone you know is looking to expand beyond their current circumstances or situation we need to talk! A conversation with me will be a game changer for you — guaranteed!

Your Path

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Living life intentionally. What does that really mean? It means getting specific about goals and staying focused to make them a reality. Figuring out what your goals are isn’t always easy, but staying focused is the really tough part. It’s so easy to float through life, slip into auto-pilot, take the path of least resistance. But that path is paved. No flowers grow there.

That’s why I suggest journaling, and also having a list of daily reminders — or affirmations — like this that you spend time with EVERY DAY. This process allows you be reflective about where you’ve been and where you are presently, as well as reminded where you want to go and what you want to manifest as you navigate your own, beautiful, flower-filled path.

Please feel free to reach out to me if you need a helping hand along the way. My activation helps you get crystal clear on your goals. My 1:1 sessions give you an accountability partner and someone to keep you focused on your goals, the life you want to live, and the person you want to be. No more floating, no more auto-pilot. Your path is waiting to be discovered.