Welcome November!

Welcome November! We're already a week into this magical month.  It signifies, for me, the beginning of the holidays and the time for reflection and planning for the New Year.

It also brings about the worries of lack and not enough.  Often as the days are shorter and the nights are longer a bit of sadness and loneliness may set in. 

I have found that I do a lot of reading during this time of year.  I want to open my mind to possibilities and amp up my vibration (energy) to keep focused and driving towards the next big thing. Reading gives me time to receive messages that I may have overlooked and ideas that will move me forward.    

Several years ago I was presented with the book "Think and Grow Rich!"  At first, the title wasn’t something that resonated with me as a possibility – more like never a possibility. 

How can one think and grow rich? I’ve done that all my life and I’m still broke!

Then I found the book kept grabbing my attention so I decided to give it a read.

Randomly opening up the book I found the story “Three Feet From Gold” and began to read.  Whoa! This resonated with me so much.  I started to wonder how many times I was in that same scenario? What have I given up on way before I should have?

So I am sharing with you today the PDF of Napoleon Hill's - Think and Grow Rich. (You can also YouTube and have the audio version). You can download the PDF of the book here! The story Three Feet From Gold (pg 22) offers a big shift in mindset.

I hope you'll take a moment and read that story – and see what comes up for you.  I believe it may just change your mindset tremendously, opening you up to endless possibilities around money!

And of course find time to read the entire book because it always offers more insights and mindfulness. I pick it up often and randomly open to find the message I need for that day. Hell, the title alone gives me great inspiration!

Want to dive deeper into Mindfulness? Grab my 21 Day to Body Mindfulness email program hereGive yourself the gift of seeing things with a new perspective and find your own DRIVE leading into the holiday’s and New Year!

Mindfulness

Mindfulness is a word that has been showing up lately in the coaching/mentoring arena.  Because of this, I wanted to share a message from one of the emails that speaks specifically to “mindfulness” from my “21 Day to Body Mindfulness” email program. 
 
Let's start with Google’s definition for Mindfulness:
 
Mindfulness is a state of active, open attention on the present. When you're mindful, you observe your thoughts and feelings from a distance, without judging them good or bad. Instead of letting your life pass you by, mindfulness means living in the moment and awakening to experience.
 
What a beautiful definition and a gentle reminder of how we often go unconscious to our lives, with a robotic routine that keeps us from day-to-day experiences that are magical and go unnoticed. With hectic career and family demands, we find ourselves going from one task to the next but not noticing what is taking place in that moment. 

I have found when I really slow down and live in the moment (not yesterday’s argument or tonight’s dinner plans) I experience a sense of awareness that offers groundedness where I can be my best self! And isn’t that what we truly want the world to see?!

Today, I am inviting you to be mindful.  Notice what’s going on around you; colors, smells, objects, animals, the sky, the ground, people… really everything. Just notice. Even the dirty windshield on your car needs to be noticed... without any judgment please! ;-)

It all has meaning as you will soon discover throughout our time together. All of this awareness is allowing you to open and receive the beauty that surrounds you and is within YOU! Pay attention and always have fun!

Ready to Play? Let’s go…
 
For today, I invite you to really look at people’s faces; their eyes, mouth, facial expressions. Notice if they are smiling, frowning, sad, happy, or unable to give you eye contact.  Then offer them your biggest and brightest smile with eye contact and see what happens.
 
If this email has sparked your interest and you want to learn more, I recommend joining the 21 Day Body Mindfulness program HERE!

How to Discover Your Desire!

This came up in our group challenge and I felt it would be helpful to share here. 
 
When we think of what we desire, we want it ALL, right?! Money, time, perfect career, loving relationships, travel, peace, joy, slimmer body, etc. 
 
I have discovered that deciding where to focus your DRIVE for change is found by allowing yourself to consider what would have the biggest impact on your life. Perhaps it will change other circumstances that exist that you would like to change as well.
 
Here's one of my biggest transformations in 2014 that changed (and saved) my life.
 
I knew that things were not going as I desired in my life. There was lack of happiness and a feeling of being lost on my journey. 
 
I had done all the gold stars and check marks. I was living an abundant life. However, there was just a feeling of something missing. My heart was longing for more!
 
In a journal entry, I wrote all the things that were bothering me most; wanting to run our family business at an optimal success level, for me to take back control over my health to live longer and have more energy, and to eliminate the use of alcohol on a daily basis.
 
Of these three things drinking was what jumped off the page. 
 
Why? I realized in that moment that drinking had the biggest hold on my life! The smoking, over-eating, spending money, not running a profitable business, etc., where all just a by-product of my drinking. (Gulp!)
 
Now having this awareness, I set the intention to stop the drinking because I knew that was the BIGGEST, most sabotaging element in my life that controlled everything. I knew releasing the alcohol would release the other unfavorable behaviors AND allow for everything else to turn around. 
 
And it has! Releasing an addiction doesn't have to be hard, it just needs to come from a place of "why" for yourself. Once you lock into that desire and believe it to be true, no one or thing will knock you off course. Your desired outcome will become stronger than any excuse you can tell!
 
Why? Because when you become aware of what you desire (no more going numb and hiding out from life) you gain the ability to SEE and FEEL what you want and desire… and so it is!
 
If this has brought up questions for yourself, I'd love the opportunity to spend 30 minutes on a call with you. Just reply to this post or use my scheduler to plan a time. Asking for support is the first step in making changes and allowing for healing in your own life. I'm here in service and hold everything sacred and in confidence. 
 
Isn't it time to let go and start creating more of what you desire in your life?  

Just Ask for Support

This morning I was feeling a bit down. Coming off of a high vibration from making things happen, but this morning it caught up with me. I felt drained.

How can I keep doing this level of work that I'm doing and still keep myself motivated?

I'm familiar with this feeling so I knew it be best to reach out to my coach and ask for support!

Her recommendation was to make a list of those things I've recently accomplished to see how much "work" I have been doing in such a short amount of time.

She offered this as a starter:

"Lady, you are literally right there at the place you are going! You just need to finish it! You have this challenge all set and ready to go, you have YMCA dates set, you have collaborations with the college, and you are getting ready to put in place the consignment shop. What else? You have this book launching in 3 days in addition to the one you've already written. Take stock in all your accomplishments. This challenge and helping direct sales people shift their perspective is fabulous. Run with it!"

Holy Wow! BIG Shift!

I am “getting shit done” (as she likes to say), and having her reflect back on my accomplishments from this month alone revitalized me: spirit and soul!  I felt the shift and found I am now at even a higher vibration than before.

All because I ASKED for support and am open to RECEIVE it.

As I continue to learn and tap into what I need I’m discovering that seeking support is key.  Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want even if it feels uncomfortable.  Trust that on the other side you’ll find joy.

Where do you need support? What would you ask if you had a coach who is there to offer guidance? Don’t have a coach? You are in luck.

Today’s discover has nudged me to offer YOU, a subscriber of Find Your Own DRIVE, a gift of a 1-Hour Power Session!

You read that right! My own personal lesson for today of “asking for support” is now giving you the “pay it forward” gift of a FREE 1-Hour Power Session!

A Power Session is where you can openly ask the questions you want to understand, unravel, or eliminate completely, whether it is job, family, personal development, anything! I’m here for YOU.

Simply reply to this post with YES! and we will get you set up on a day/time that works best for you.  I will only be gifting these sessions until September 15, 2016, so be sure to claim your spot.

Can't wait to hear from you!

Being Left Behind...

I'm working diligently on my businesses and all of a sudden I’m caught with:

  • Missing networking calls or meetings
  • Unexpected situations that I have no control over
  • Discovering that my program idea was a total flop
  • Looking forward to some “me” time and being pulled in all different directions

When this happens, my mind goes to looking around at what others are doing.  All I can see from this point of view (overwhelm) is the amazing women I’ve connected myself with are expanding and growing like crazy. They are saying, doing, and creating all the right things.  Everywhere I look I see people expanding and growing their biz in record time – in a blink of an eye. How are they doing it all and moving ahead so fast? What about me?

Then the feeling of sadness shows up... feeling like I’m Being Left Behind.

The same old pattern rises up - self sabotage! Which includes but not limited to:

  • Not taking action
  • Thinking those “people” have more (better) support
  • Thinking “I just haven’t found the right niche”
  • My ego asking me “who do you think you are?”

UGH!

Seeking understanding, I posted my concerns in a private Facebook group.  Immediately, a beautiful message came offering the perfect message:

“You believe that there is a "you" and "them" - you are them. They are your reflection. Every single success you see is a reflection of what is possible for you. You wouldn't be surrounded by such high vibration souls if you weren't also at that level.”

The light bulb came on bright in that moment.  I knew this to be true.  I am seeing what my heart desires in all the others who I feel have arrived.

The message that comes to me knows that I can only see their success from my own knowingness. They are showing up for me to reach a bit higher, take a few more chances, ask for more support, and to know they never stop believing in me.

The ego is a powerful dude when given its full attention and operates from a space of fear.  It’s worth stopping and telling your ego “thanks, but I’ve got this.”

By allowing the self doubt to rise (fear), it gives opportunity to release the “old story” which keeps me in a place of Being Left Behind. I now choose to create a new story.

I’m on my own journey of growth and expansion knowing that others who are already doing what I see in my vision for myself, lifts my vibration and gives me joy knowing all things are possible.

Using my intuition, believing in divine timing, and taking inspired action, knowing I’m just a thought away from being right where I desire to be, and no longer being left behind.

When do you feel you’re being left behind? Where do you desire support and clarity on your journey? How is the ego talking to you about your dreams and desires? What fears are keeping you stuck and playing small?

We are all reflections of one another, so don’t be left behind always wondering “if only” and take action now to move ahead as I did. I asked for support, and the message received has opened my mind, heart, and spirit to know I’m not being left behind… I’m right where I need to be with love and grace.

I am personally inviting you to connect with me. Let’s chat about where you may be missing an opportunity due to the ego showing up and telling you lies or those fears that you know are holding you back.

Reply to this blog and say “YES!” and I will contact with you immediately to schedule a time for us to chat.

Desire Over Excuses

I’m not the kind of girl who writes in a journal often; however, there are times when it seems helpful. Journaling allows me to write down my feelings and emotions that I’m having and offers a release from being in my headspace, to dropping into my heart space.

On December 29, 2013, while on vacation and celebrating my birthday, I was having a lot of thoughts racing through my head and wanted to release them on paper.

I reached for the journal and began writing my concerns, having little or no attachment to what was being recorded in that moment.

What jumped off the paper at me were the three things that needed to change: my health, my business mindfulness, and my drinking!

Moving into the New Year, I realize my drinking consumed a lot of my time.  Reflecting on my use of alcohol, I realize it’s the one thing that keeps me safe, numb, and often unconscious to living up to my dreams and desires, therefore keeping me playing small.  It also has been a big factor in not remember or being fully in the present during events, celebrations, vacations, and day to day living.
I started to realize that this conscious decision to stop drinking was a much stronger desire than I had ever experienced before.  A vision came to mind where I saw how releasing the drinking would change everything.

I thought, “I do want to grow and expand my business, I want to experience adventures, I want better health for vitality and longevity, and I especially want to be fully present for our first grandchild that is arriving in February of this year.”

How was I going to overcome this addiction?

It was my deep DESIRE that allowed me to take a leap of faith!  It was my CHOICE to stop! And without any professional help or meetings, I put down the addiction.

My deep desire to stop came from a place of knowing that drinking is the one thing that I have total control over but yet allows it to interrupt the flow of my life (aka root to all my problems).

In that moment, I am ready to fully step into my life sober and play a bigger game.

Years of allowing the alcohol to consume my daily life, and continually finding myself in compromising situations and heading into unfavorable circumstances that once seemed to be my thrill seeking approach to life, to now knowing that this is no longer serving me. 

And then this happens….. I am called out on my character and integrity as an “alcoholic” among other things ~ boom! Validation from the Universe. I knew it was time for change and no turning back.
I had no way of knowing what my life would look like without using alcohol but I just knew that the DESIRE to change was stronger than any excuse I could give.

 I let go of the drinking, smoking, and over spending, along with the chaos, excuses and fears, to finding my new DRIVE for life.

Not being able to numb out or go unconscious, having to feel ALL of my feelings and emotions and seeking a life coach for support, I began working through all the emotions, uncovering and unraveling all the stories I have created over time. 

Now living in sobriety I am fully aware of my actions when it comes to taking care of business and my health.  I am learning to tap into my intuition.  And I am filled with joy and happiness.

I was awakening to the desires as a young girl and knowing that I am here for greater things.  My heart knows it’s time to find my DRIVE and to live from a place of passion and purpose.

And when I allowed my mind and heart to receive this message it was all very clear that my process was in the DRIVE where D stands for Desire followed by Receiving, Implementing, Visualizing, and Evolving which leads to Find Your Own DRIVE mentoring and 5 Steps to DRIVE program.    

Releasing the alcohol, not knowing what my life would look like, was possible because I had a desire that is stronger than any excuse I could make. 

I trusted that I would show up and be present even around those who drink knowing I chose to stop for me.

I’m reminded of my past where DESIRE leads me to some amazing accomplishments and experiences. 

Here are a few that quickly come to mind:

  • Desire to go to college and earn my teaching degree at the age of 30 while raising a family and working full time
  • Desire to end relationships that become toxic and no longer served me
  • Desire to stand in my power to receive all that I truly want
  • Desire to learn to play golf in my forties

What I did KNOW for sure is that I had a DESIRE stronger than my fears (excuses) which allows for all of this to manifest and happen with joy and ease.

Isn’t it time to step out of your comfort zone and get into your DRIVEr’s seat and go for your desires?

You are just one thought away from making a change and living a life you truly desire.

What are you waiting for?

Let Go of the Hows….

Do you find yourselves being stuck in a place of decision only because you can’t figure out “how” you will ever reach the end point or desired outcome?

You keep trying to figure out the hows, knowing you want to get from point A to point B, but can’t see a clear way. You want the details first before moving forward.

You have conversation in your head around “if I do this, this will happen”, but then again “doing this may lead to that.” This my friend is rolling around in the “hows” rather than TAKING ACTION!

A year ago I wanted to start a women’s beginner golf scramble for those ladies I had just completed giving lessons to.  My concern was if they signed up, “how” I would be able to be with all the groups to give guidance and direction for them to fully benefit learning to play. I also wondered who I could ask to help, but quickly dismissed this idea thinking “how” would I convenes them to help.

So since I couldn’t figure out the “hows” in making this happen, I just dropped the entire idea. 

Fast forward to earlier this month, I hosted an event for women golfers who play at all levels and at the end I offered a three week beginner scramble.  To my surprise, 15 women sign up on the spot!

The first night when we met we drew for teams, and there just so happened to be five women who were already advanced golfers.  Those women were given the role as “team leader” and two beginner players were placed on their team, making five teams of three players which included an advanced leader.  What I had envisioned all along. 

Holy Wow! Right!?!  I couldn’t have planned it any better. It all aligned as I had imagined but I didn’t do anything to make it happen in this way.

All I did was take ACTION by announcing the offering, drop the “hows”, and believed it would all turn out in the highest and best good to those who say YES.

And it most certainly did. I was in awe of this and also thankful. 

We have one more night of the three weeks and the women are already wanting to continue and commenting on how wonderful it has been having this opportunity to improve their game and be with someone that can offer them encouragement and instruction. They are all so grateful for me offering them this experience of learning and playing golf in a non-intimidating environment with supportive women.

My desire for this opportunity is now happening because I took action and dropped the hows.

This next time around, I am up leveling the program to include 15 minutes of mindfulness coaching before going out to play! More on that in future emails.

So today what is it that you are not taking ACTION on but know in your heart there is a desire to do something that will be in your highest and best good?

Try this:

Want a new home? Buy something small like a pillow that will represent to you that the new home is on its way.

Hate your job? Be the best you can and thankful for the one you have now knowing you’re attracting your next career.

Desire to lose weight? Get in some extra steps by parking the furthest spot away from the entrance at all locations including your home.

What do you desire? And think of one thing you can do today that will lead you closer to that which you desire.  Let go of the hows and believe in the process.

The Universe is rising up to meet you – just ask and take action.  You’ll be so glad you did.

It all starts with DESIRE followed by ACTION.

Maybe today the action is to schedule a free 30 minute discovery call to flush out your desires and get you moving to Find Your Own DRIVE!

I’m here for you in love and support and give your permission to stop being stuck in a place of decision and take action.

I Can't Afford Anything!

Are you Feeling Lack? – Keep Your Eye on the WHY!

You decided it’s time for change and you want something better….but you can’t afford it!

You consider taking a program, going back to school, buying a new car, traveling, helping others….. all those desires that involve money….which you can’t afford; or can you? 

Do you find yourself resisting things you desire only because it involves money? 

What if there was an endless supply of money? Would you continue to stay stuck in the story of lack?

Of course not, you would create a lifestyle from a place of financial freedom and have all that your heart desires? 

I’m here to let you know, from my own personal experience, that the story of lack is what keeps you right where you are.

Would you be willing to switch your thinking?

Consider this:  what if you where told you need to generate $2,000 in the next two days because someone you deeply loved (or yourself) needs it for a cure of an illness otherwise they will die! Would you find the money – hell yea you would! You would be determined to figure out a way to get the money. 

You would start with your savings (if you have one), call friends and family, look at your availability on your credit cards, sell something, go get a private loan, ANYTHING to get the money and all along not even thinking how you’d every repay the money because you only want to focus on getting the money NOW.

So, why is it so easy to go after the money in this “live/death” situation?

Perhaps from knowing and believing there is happiness on the other side of obtaining the money knowing someone will be saved and live another day.

In this moment, you are passionate and driven to know that your next two days is about being in service to the person you love.  Nothing else matters except finding the money.

What’s going on with you in this moment?

Melissa
You have a purpose, drive, and passion knowing things will be better, someone’s life will be changed, and you will have been a part of making this all happen because you where driven to do what you believe is the best way to offer support and love for this person by getting the money.

So, why is it that when it comes to YOU there is resistance? Resistances around being supported by the things you desire.  Why is “having no money” to do and have the things you want the only answer keeping you from having those things?

If you are able to find money for someone else in need, you can absolutely find money for yourself!

It all starts with a desire deep from within.

Knowing and believing that what you want will change you. Whether you want to take a trip to lie on the sandy floor of the ocean, to a month in Rome, or buying a new home, even having the support of a life coach, all of this is possible IF you desire it deep enough from within.

Take Action! Take some action steps to call in the money, as you would do for an emergency, you can start seeing where there is more than enough and not lack.

I’m not saying go into (more) debt to do these things; I’m saying focus on what the outcome will be when you make things happen – the joy, happiness, love and excitement. Mmmm!   

How do you feel, what did you learn, who would you be – this is your why!

And from there the passion of this the “why” grows from within and you start to attract the things you need to make it come forward. The Universe is on your side and is aligning all that needs to happen to support you in your deepest desires. 

Ask for what you desire, trust the process, and believe it is already coming to you! The magic starts with knowing you are more than enough and very capable of having it all!

Start now by letting go of your story of lack and enter into the story of “I have more than enough!”
….and so it is.

In Love and Service to You!

Melissa

Expansion and Contraction!

Sounds like childbirth doesn’t it? And, truthfully our lives are constantly giving birth to new ideas, things, and opportunities.  We can be the creator of all things, or all things may be happen on their own.

Either way there is a time for expansion and contraction throughout the process.

When we stop to say life is happening FOR me rather than life is happening TO me a shift occurs. 

Say the following two sentences:

Why does this always happen to me?

Why is this happening to me – what do I need to know?

Let that sink in!  

Here’s an example: you are running late for work due to a driver in front of you going well below the speed limit, and you want to pass but you're unable to. You start thinking “why is this happening to me, of all days, I have to …..”

Now shift your thoughts to “why am I being delayed?”  Be curious!

What comes up? 

Perhaps you are only a few minutes from home to realize you forgot to turn off the stove, or maybe you realize you where to bring the donuts for the office meeting but had forgotten and you see the donut shop just ahead, or just maybe the Universe is stepping in to take you out of an accident that is occurring in this moment. 

Or more simply you overslept and are running late – the car in front of you has nothing to do with that, you’ve just made him the target of your frustrations – let it go! And accept you’ll be late.

As you read those possibilities, feel how your body will contract when you think about being late, but expands when you can stay curious to the feelings you have around being late.

Embrace this knowing that out of any situation good will come, or something better.

We sometimes have to look for it, and often have to be patient to learn and discovery what the best part of any situation, but believe me my friend I have being doing this work for a long time and know to be true that good will come….it always does – you just have to look for it!

Set backs are often a time of contraction.  The frustration, angry, and often madness that goes along with not having things “go your way” can lead to having a trickle down affect into other areas that seem to be going smoothly.

Just allow the contraction, breathe, be curious, and stop to experience what is taking place. Feel the expansion.  You will be glad you did and from there things will shift in your favor.

Allow Yourself To Be in the Gap

Today I want to talk to you about pausing and being in the gap.

This theme has been coming up for both me and my clients. The gap - the time where something ends/is achieved and the next phase is about to start/begin– known as the the gap.

So often we get caught up in the gold stars and check mark mentality, we forget to stop along the way and notice! We often miss out on receiving all the goodness around what has just been accomplished/received in our life because we are moving towards the next mark.

With always wanting to get to the next big thing, we haven’t realized how far we’ve already come.

For instance, I have not had any alcohol for over two years. Since releasing this addiction, I never considered it to be a “count the days” story because I knew when I said NO to drinking it was a lifestyle change and there wasn’t going to be any number that said I was doing so. I was simply living in sobriety.

What I realized that giving up a lifelong addiction by eliminating alcohol opened my path to receive and create so much more. This is expansion at its finniest!

However, it wasn’t until recently that the “gap” came to my realization on how easily we may take things for granted. My decision to become sober wasn’t a small task by any means, let alone stepping into a life on purpose where I had to now feel my “feelings”, and no more hiding out. Yikes! and Yay!

Today, I’m living a life of passion and purpose. I’m leading by example. I am motivating and encouraging others to live their life full out and drop the stories and addictions to whatever they use to go numb and unconscious, or make excuses.

None of this would have been possible if I hadn’t made that decision to stop the drinking.

Being scared is never fun, and using other distractions to avoid that “feeling” seems to be a way of life for many. Now that I’m on the other side of things, I realized I didn’t take time to feel my life “in the gap” – the place after and just before…..wow!

It seems so natural to move onto the next big thing! And yet, I didn’t stop to find the balance, new discoveries, and freedom from completing a cycle of drinking that no longer served me and had consumed so much of me for years.

All the shame, doubt, fears and wondering what was said or done, no longer haunts me. Overcoming the addiction released those moments and I am grateful to pause in the “gap” and celebrate knowing I’ve come to a place of being!

When’s the last time you allowed yourself to stop and celebrate yourself on something you’ve accomplished, overcome, or completed and say “job well done” and know there is nothing more you have to do in that moment?

Make time now to step into the gap of where you once where and where you are now. Feel the difference and allow the experience to soak in knowing you’ll never go back as far as you once where.

Reflect today on how you arrived at this time and space. Write them down. Get real. Feel how things used to be and how they are now. Give yourself permission to fully love where you are in this moment.

Include in this reflection not only the good things but also anything like a bad job situation, lack of money, addiction to drinking, food or shopping, heated relationships, anything that feels uncomfortable, and shed light onto it knowing you will create something better moving forward. Receive the messages from the way things use to be ..... up until now!

You are the creator and rock star in your own life. Start with being present in this moment….oh, yes, you already are since you read this entire message ;)

Allowing yourself to BE in the gap ~

xx Melissa